WHY if you KNOW something you do makes your wife have panic attacks would you DO IT, time after time?  Its not a hidden thing I have social phobias and my husband thinks by putting me in UNCOMFORTABLE positions I'm going to *snap* get over it.  Now, there are some situations where I am okay, just need someone by my side or someone to push me...but there are some that make me UNCOMFORTABLE.  ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.